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Dependency and Learned Helplessness
What happens when a child is too dependent on the parent, or an adult to help them with many things? In all my years of assessing and dealing with families who had children that were not doing well at school, or had been diagnosed with some or other disorder, I noted...
Learned Helplessness: A Barrier to Learning
During his many years as an educational psychologist, Dr Resnick noticed some commonalities among learners diagnosed with some form of barriers to learning. He found that all of these learners were dependent on some form of help in tasks which they were unsure of,...
Pocket Money – Teaching Children The Value Of Money
Many parents are confused as to when to teach their children the value of money. Smartchoiceparenting shows you how. Pocket money can be introduced once a child is able to talk. Both pocket money and responsibility should be increased as the child gets older. A...
Subject Choice – 6 Top Tips
TOP 6 TIPS FOR HELPING YOUR CHILD CHOOSE SUBJECTS IN GRADE 9 TO GET ON THE RIGHT CAREER TRACK! It’s that time of the year when grade 9 learners are going to be faced with one of the most important decisions they will make during their school years. By the end of...
The New Pandemic: Mollycoddling, Overprotective, Compassionate Parenting
The Detrimental Effects of Compassionate Parenting While well-intentioned, a modern trend of over-protective, indulgent, controlling, and coddling "compassionate parenting" may inadvertently hinder children's development. Instead of encouraging independence,...
Who Rules The Roost?
In many families today, the children are the ones that seem to be in charge, and as with most things that need navigating in life, children do not have the skills or know how to navigate successfully. I liken parenting to pilots flying an aeroplane. They are in full...
Is It Possible To Change Your Child’s Behaviour In Only 2 Sessions With a Psychologist?
I have discovered it is: Here’s how: I have a 6-year-old son who is currently in grade R. For the past 2 years his teachers have been complaining about his behaviour at school. He is an intelligent, lively child – full of ideas and imagination. His teachers say he...
We Can Handle The Problem In A Calm And Controlled Manner
Dear Ken, Both …. Of us thought that we knew it all, having already brought up one child. What a shock Ryan has been. From day one he has pushed the outer limits. We had no skills on how to deal with this difficult child's personality. You gave us the skills and...
I Feel Like A Better Parent
Dear Ken I would like to tell you how wonderful I am finding parenting since I have started with your techniques. When I arrived at your doorstep I was desperate, I was beginning to dislike parenting more and more, I felt as though I was spending every waking moment...
Filling The Void – Empowering Parents To Empower Their Kids
Have you ever given it a thought that we are all born with x amount of potential and only realise a small portion of that potential? It’s sad to think that most of us pass on without having a clue of exactly how much potential hasn’t been actualized.
SmartParenting And Extreme Childhood Disorders
Quite a number of children develop disorders that seem to stump professionals dealing with children. Encopresis and Elected Mutism are just two. I have had a 100% success rate with children who soil their pants as well as elected mutes.
To Spank Or Not To Spank
The subject of spanking seems to come up time and time again. Seldom is an effective alternative offered to parents. Let’s make one thing clear; spanking is a form of abuse and very few parents spank their children when they’re cool and calm.